Resources

There are so many wonderful resources out there including books, articles, and podcasts that it’s hard to know where to start. I have compiled a list that will hopefully guide you in finding support for whatever topic you are looking for.

Books by Terry Real

My mentor and friend Terry Real has written several books on Intimate Partnership and Male Depression.

Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship

Stop working on yourself as an individual and start working on your relationship as a couple, with the help of the renowned family therapist and author of The New Rules of Marriage.

I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression

A bestseller for over 20 years, I Don’t Want to Talk About It is a groundbreaking and hopeful guide to understanding and destigmatizing male depression, essential not only for men who may be suffering but for the people who love them.

The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work

In his extraordinary new book, Terrence Real, distinguished therapist and bestselling author, presents a long overdue message that women need to hear: You aren’t crazy–you’re right!

How Can I Get Through to You? Closing the Intimacy Gap Between Men and Women

Bestselling author and nationally renowned therapist Terrence Real unearths the causes of communication blocks between men and women in this groundbreaking work.

Fierce Intimacy (Audio Book)

With Fierce Intimacy, this renowned author offers a revolutionary way of living in connection - one that allows you to cherish your partner, yourself, and your relationship in equal measure.

The Relational Life Foundation

https://www.relationallifefoundation.org/

To learn more about the Relational Life Foundation and the power of the RLT model, please visit the link above.

The Body Keeps The Score

This is by far the best book out there in understanding how trauma affects our nervous systems, how we see the world, and how we relate to others and ourselves.

Attached

This is an excellent and well researched book on different Attachment styles that will help you understand why anxiety is such a strong component in our intimate partnerships.

Come As You Are

Probably the best, most comprehensive book out there on sexuality, defying the myth of what's normal. I highly recommend her work, especially as she is a researcher as well as a trained clinician.

The Happiness Trap

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy has evolved to be one of the most effective psychotherapy models to date. Well researched and easy to understand, this book helps people use tools of mindfulness and committed value based actions to increase psychology flexibility, the hallmark of good mental health.

The Tools

If you are looking for a practical book that includes a spiritual focus on facing fears and challenges, this is an excellent read. I highly recommend the audio book, as it is conversational and a pleasure to listen to.

Dopamine Nation

Dopamine Nation is a must read if you are struggling with an addiction or compulsive behavior. This book explores how the brain sets us up to continue the same behavioral patterns, even when our mind says stop.

The Road Back to You

There are many books out there on the enneagram. I find this book is an excellent start to understand some basic principles of your enneagram type.

To investigate your enneagram type, visit:
www.enneagraminstitute.com or download the EnneaApp

The Power of Now

If you are only going to read one book about spirituality (and of course there are many), this is the one to read. Eckhart Tolle is probably the most widely accessible spiritual teacher and writer of our time.

Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones

No matter your goals, Atomic Habits offers a proven framework for improving--every day. James Clear, one of the world's leading experts on habit formation, reveals practical strategies that will teach you exactly how to form good habits, break bad ones, and master the tiny behaviors that lead to remarkable results.